In our first group chat on the understanding ‘Love, without condition, creates connection’, we explored an exercise in acknowledging our current conditions, our blocks to unconditional love, the thing that is holding us away from a stronger deeper connection with self, others, all.
Below is the exercise. Have a go. See what comes up for you. If you need to discuss the outcome whinny at us and we will talk it through with you.
The Exercise
Part 1
Write on a sheet of paper the following:
“Love, without ………………………………….., creates connection”.
Close your eyes, relax, and allow all thoughts to go through and out, breathe deeply, and come into the present for 30 seconds or until you feel present and relaxed.
Open your eyes, read the question aloud, and write in the first word(s) that come into your mind. If you find yourself starting to analyse the question or what is coming into your mind, go back to your process for becoming present, and repeat the exercise.
When you have your word, look at it for a while and ask yourself:
“How does that word(s) make me feel? Where do I feel it in my body?” Note your answers.
If the word(s) make you feel overwhelmed then work on part 2 to break things down. If you are not overwhelmed go to part 3 of the exercise.
Part 2
On your piece of paper, draw a brick wall, leaving enough room in each brick to write something.
Look at your word(s) and now from the top down write an alternative word in each brick until you run out of words.
For Example:
Love, without Judgement – where Judgement is very overwhelming. This can be broken down into the wall as below:
Your word was overwhelming because the parts that make up the word are areas that need to be acknowledged. Self criticism is a form of self judgement. Not liking criticsm from others is also a form of self judgement that can be linked to feelings of not being good enough.
At this point don’t worry about how many bricks you have.
Look at the words and find the word that brings up the least strong feeling. Start there and take that word to Part 3.
Part 3
At this stage we are just going to create a positive statement that you can say to yourself every day.
Take your word(s) and on your piece of paper create a sentence using words such as below as examples:
” I can change my perspective of………………………..by doing…………….”
“I can change my reaction to…………….by being…………..”
I can become…………………by knowing I am…………..”
Etc.
Repeat this sentence to yourself when something triggers the feeling you felt in your body earlier.
Let us know how you get on in the forum.
If you weren’t at the chat, it may help to watch the recording.