The second consultation with Britt shows Britt saying No and tells us how we need to learn to Honor that to enable Britt to show us one day her ‘Yes’. She says ‘Yes’ very little, if at all, in this video. There is also a mismatch of energy levels which could be due to a number of things that could include:
- Not being able to become present and focus on Britt due to somebody else being there;
- A level of frustration that Britt doesn’t want to co-operate
- A belief that Britt’s ‘fighting’ behaviour is ‘her normal self’.
When an animal says No and we don’t allow that, over time the fight becomes more and more normal. The fight is also bringing thinking levels up, which brings stress levels up, and stress affects the physical body. This occurs in both you and Britt. It spirals.
You are seeing this though and you do offer the present moment and regard her. It is just about practice, working on your regard and understanding that if you allow Britt to say No she will eventually say Yes.
There are a number of actions in your action plan to help move forward with regarding yourself and Britt, and ways of practicing ‘seeing the No’, allowing it, and also being grateful for it. Be grateful because she is communicating with you. It might not be what you want, but it is communication. Now we need to learn to respond to it, rather than react.
I also recommend having a look at the Exercise under ‘Creating Respect’ called ‘What Thinking Level is your Animal?’.
Your consultation video summary and action plan can be found in your forum area.