Category: Free the Wild You

Given everyone’s unique perspective, background, and experiences, we all act in ways that are appropriate for us at all times. Arguing with that is a sure-fire recipe for conflict rather than connection, and completely disregards the valid reasons behind someone else’s behaviour. The Wisdom of Wildness : Healing the Trauma of Domestication – Ren Hurst.…

My boundary is the space I need to stay present with you. The Wisdom of Wildness: Healing the Trauma of Domestication – Ren Hurst How many times has your horse stepped into your space, stepped on your foot, barged you out of the way, pushed into you for scratches, etc? And how many times did you…

I wanted to talk a bit more about this subject because it came up in a conversation I was having in facebook. I have done posts on this subject before, but it continually evolves like everything. My mantra around this subject is: “I do not tolerate anything anymore. I accept, then I seek to change.“…

Respect the No, persistently. Consider this: Every argument, every war ever had in human history, started because a question was asked, the answer given was No, and this was not respected? Now apply that to your everyday life. How many times have you asked a question of your horse in a nice way, because you…

Invitation is vulnerable, allowing. It can be rejected, and it should be any time it feels like a No won’t be respected. Your invitation is only true and trustworthy when there is no desperation behind it. The Wisdom of Wildness : Healing the Trauma of Domestication – Ren Hurst. We are into the 6th principle…

Our influence over dependant animals is enormous. Just changing our tone can influence then into a different emotional state, which we may be unconsciously controlling to elevate our own. The Wisdom of Wildness: Healing the Trauma of Domestication – Ren Hurst. This is the 5th principle that Ren Hurst explores in her book and her…

The difficulty in this principle is recognising how often a relationship has been built on the transaction rather than authentic connection. The Wisdom of Wildness : Healing the Trauma of Domestication – Ren Hurst Systems of reward and punishment are transactions. Systems of positive reinforcement are transactions. Any system that tries to turn a No…

Learning how to control expectation within your body can pay off by encouraging co-operation in the moments when you do need to lead or relate to the animals in meaningful ways. Expecting Nothing is about dropping the attachment to a specific result or, the anxiety around not getting what you want. The Wisdom of Wildness…

What is always yours to control is you – your thoughts, your words, your actions, and where you are placing your attention. No-one else is your business, not even your dependants (the animals or people in your care). Your dependants needs are your responsibility, as long as they are dependants, but Who they are is…

One must commit to doing one’s best to eliminate any behaviour or practice that knowingly causes physical or psychological harm to those in our care The Wisdom of Wildness: Healing the Trauma of Domestication – Ren Hurst I would add something to this as well. It is not only about those in our care, but…